Are Your Fits Costing You Your Relationship?
Most women, myself no exception, are spoiled brats. We have gotten used to getting our way by looking sexy, wiggling our hips, and pretty much just by being a woman. We have also gotten used to pouting, crying, throwing tantrums or having a mood if we don’t get what we want.
This would not be a problem if it worked in our relationships, but it doesn’t. If I throw a fit with one of my girlfriends, chances are she waits until I am done and then she’ll ask what’s going on.
With men, this does not work. Never, ever, EVER! Throwing fits and having moods is the fastest way to drive your man insane and to ruin your relationship. Most women know this and still have a hard time accepting it and changing their “Why can’t a man just be like a girl? or, “I have a mood, there is nothing I can do about it.” attitude.
Because we get away with it. There are no ‘visible’ consequences. Or so we think. The truth is far from it. The consequences may be subtle but they have an enormous impact. They cost women aliveness, money, friendships, intimacy, and beauty.
Yes, every fit you throw will make you look more exhausted, angry and disappointed. We metabolize our emotions. If you take a look and study the faces of the women around you, you’ll see what I am talking about.
Now, the thing that can stop you from engaging and wallowing in your moods or tantrums is a game, a cause, or a business that’s exciting and worth playing. Also, having friends and activities that bring you joy will relax you and make you feel good about yourself. Girl talk is important and having nurturing friendships with other women will help you to keep your calm in the ups and downs of life.
What’s your experience? I’d love to find out how you have been able to let go of the drama in your life and live with passion and joy.
Namaste,
Karin
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Photo Source: Duncan via Flickr under a Creative Commons License. The picture is called “How to Pout Properly.”
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3. May 2010 at 2:21 pm :
Great post Karin.
I HATE it when drama shows up in my life! You are so right !! –when I play a part in any way by starting drama or escalating it –I end up drained to the bone and the mirror reflects it (not only the literal mirror, but my life mirror!)
I am currently working on a writing project and find that I have become more and more protective of my creative space. I have begun to notice the things that take me off track and away from the space I need to be in to write. I am willing to do what it takes to not get off track –including not throwing fits! :-)t